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So You’ve Decided to Watch Porn Together

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When it goes right, a shared porn watching experience can bring a couple closer together (often in the most literal way possible). When it goes wrong? Well, let’s just say we’re all just one cringeworthy porn scene away from an uncomfortable and unsexy evening at home.

So how do you pick a porn that won’t send one of you screaming for the hills? As with most things in a relationship, the key is to communicate with your partner and figure out what sort of skin flick will get the two of you raring to go.

There are plenty of films that market themselves as good picks for couples, with scenes that they swear will be sure to guarantee a romantic night in. Don’t make the mistake of letting a marketing department make your decision for you. Just like the best diet is the one that works for you, the best porn for couples is the porn that both of you want to watch. That porn might have good acting and an elaborate plot; but maybe it’s just twenty straight minutes of up close shots of genitals rubbing against one another. As long as you’re both turned on, it doesn’t matter whether the film is actually marketed as “couples friendly.”

But how to pick a flick from the seemingly endless array of choices? Here’s a few criteria that can help you narrow your selection down a bit.

If you’re looking for a film that’s funny

The couple that laughs together lasts together, right? If the idea of watching XXX action with your sweetie has you feeling a little nervous, you may find that a little bit a humor can help break the ice ­– and luckily, there are plenty of porn movies that pride themselves on being as funny as they are sexy. Consider watching a porn parody of your favorite film or TV series (chances are good that at least one exists), and laugh at the silliness together before you enjoy the sexiness together. Some promising picks include “The Big Lebowski: A XXX Parody,” “The Sex Files,” and “Game of Bones” (available for free at WoodRocket).

If you’re looking to learn something

We all know that porn isn’t always the best source of sex ed – but sometimes a hardcore film is the easiest way to get a good understanding of a fancy sex technique you’re interested in trying. Fortunately, there’s a whole host of porn films that educate while titillating. One excellent series is sex educator Tristan Taormino’s “Expert Guide” line, which touches on everything from female orgasms to anal pleasure for men; Jessica Drake’s “Guide to Wicked Sex” is a promising newcomer into the field of sex edutainment.

If you’re looking for a beautifully shot film

Looking for lush visuals from a filmmaker who really know her stuff? Erika Lust may have just what you’re looking for. From her home base in Barcelona, Erika Lust produces XConfessions, a website that takes visitors’ dirty confessions and turns them into erotic short films.

If you’re looking for something a little different

Feel like the standard conventions of porn just don’t quite do it for you? Consider checking out PinkLabel VOD, a porn site that offers up a hot selection of queer, indie, and otherwise alt porn films that don’t quite fit into the standard porn script. Whether you’re interested in gender warriors out of San Francisco or beautifully shot scenes of lesbian BBWs, Pink Label is a great place to find what you’re looking for.

If you’re looking for real life couples

More turned on by the idea of watching people who’d be banging each other even if the cameras weren’t turned on? MakeLoveNotPorn.TV prides itself on sharing curated videos of “real world sex,” where real life couples flout porn conventions in videos that attempt to capture the truth of what goes in bedrooms around the world. You two can even start plotting out your own sex tape.

If you’re looking for a story line, soft lighting, and good acting

Maybe traditional couple’s porn is your cup of tea – if so, there are plenty of good options out there for you, too. One personal favorite is the New Sensations Romance Series, a line of videos that tend to feel like silly romantic comedies – if those romantic comedies actually included a few hardcore sex scenes.